May 28th, 2001


Unknowingly Doing Horrible Things

Did I mention that I've made a Christian minister perform an [essentially] Utilitarian wedding service? *sigh* I grew up agnostic, so it didn't sink in as to just what a terrible thing I'd done until Will explained it to me for the second time last night.

Not understanding the Who's Who and What's What of the religious arena, I didn't understand why our proposed ceremony was such a problem. Having never been married before(!!), I had no idea who's responsibility it was for coming up with the ceremonies that people do. From my Internet searches, it sounded to me like a lot of people were making up their own. So, I merrily went about looking for the one I liked best. I didn't know different religious denominations had different attitudes towards the ceremony procedures as well ... that just didn't occur to me.

From the weddings that I'd been to and from the countless A&E's "Wedding Story" episodes I've seen, I thought the one we proposed was pretty run-of-the-mill. Apparently, Rev. Miles thought it was "too romanticized" and "over the top".

I thought that the worst that could happen was that the proposed ceremony would get completely tossed and we'd have to go with the church's standard one. I was okay with that. I presume that people have been married for thousands of years by that ceremony, so it can't be that bad... a little dogmatic, maybe, but all in good spirit.

In the end, it couldn't have been as bad as he made it out to sound, because we are still using most of our proposed ceremony with a few minor changes, some scripture readings and mention of The Creator.

  • Current Mood
    guilty guilty

Writing Thank-You's

W and I started writing some of the Thank-You's last night. Mostly to Rev. Miles and the church staff. We're going to get one card for the church in general (one that they could pin up on a bulletin board if they wanted to) and individual ones for each staff member who did stuff. We'll have B, or someone hand deliver them as soon as the ceremony is over. I guess it was just so that I could feel a bit better for the utter disrespect I've shown... ={

Then we started writing Aksel and Mary's thank-you. Yes, wedding retail is their business, I've been to the store countless times, I've spent over $5 hillion-jillion dollars there already, but they've been very nice to me, they've given me discounts wherever they could (even when it didn't quite qualify for the discount), etc.

I'll start writing the Wedding Party's, Bernice & Gary's, Kat's... and then I'll start with the Guests who have already given us gifts.

I have to get together with Dad to compose a Chinese one for the Chinese guests as well as Bailey, Andy, Chris (videography) and Johnny, Anna (photography).