April 14th, 2004


Wedding Survey for qparom

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outside: 9°C
mood: happy
Because I'll never grow tired of prattling on and on about my wedding. =)

Camm, I have all my Wedding posts categorized in my Memories section. There is much that you do not explicitly ask about, for example, the Chinese Wedding Tea Ceremony, the Bridal Pastries and the symbolism of the Chinese banquet food. There is a lot of symbolism and reasons behind why the Chinese do things the way we do.

If there's anything you would like me to explain further, I can give you an earful ... I absolutely welcome the conversation. =)

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Links to my wedding things:

Good luck with your project! =)


On Education

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outside: 12°C
mood: philosophical
In my family, it was always a given that education (including post-secondary) was required. My parents had always said that my education is a part of my worth (they actually used the term "dowry" once =). Mom and Dad aren't going to be around forever to take care of me, in fact, there will come a day when I need to take care of them. Money is finite, it can be spent and wasted. Businesses can go bankrupt. But what I know will always be with me. What I know can always earn me more money and I can always find work opportunities elsewhere.

An academic degree or some kind of professional training distinction is a mark of discipline. There's an understanding that you have done the work, you measure up to the standard and you're more likely to know what you're doing. There's a level of respect accorded to someone with some kind of distinction.

I find that University is not for learning things, per se. It's for learning how to learn. At least, that's the way I saw it and that's the way I've used my degree. How much information from my courses have I really gotten to use in my work? Well, nothing and everything.

I'm not doing the exact tasks from my courses, but I'm using the same skills that I learned while doing those tasks. These are some of the ones I remember:

How to Define the Problem

You can't really solve a problem unless you know what the problem is to begin with. Getting a handle on the problem is not as easy a task as it sounds. What exactly are you trying to do? What is the scope of the problem? What assumptions are you making? Are those reasonable assumptions to make with respect to the scope? What's the worst thing that could happen if you're wrong?

This is so fundamental, yet it's also amazingly easy to forget, professionally and personally.

How to Ask Good Questions

Knowing when/how to get help and how to ask questions is important. People always say, "there's no such thing as a stupid question", but that's just to be encouraging. There ARE stupid questions. If you keep asking stupid thoughtless questions, you'll lose the respect of those around you. But asking well researched, well thought-out questions shows you've done as much as you can which speaks to your integrity and work ethic.

How to Take Tests

You learn the ability to write exams. Is it fair to have three months worth of course work come down to a two hour exam? Sure, it is. Except it could be ten or fifteen years of your professional expertise under the microscope for fifteen minutes. Get used to it.

To have the entirety of what you know be measured in one moment is something that happens in life. All. The. Time. It happens in job interviews and that extends to business meetings. If you are a vendor, your client is going to want to know that they're going to get what they pay for before they award you the contract. You'll be evaluated in a few meetings at most. Instead of just selling yourself, like in a job interview, you're selling your company, your organization and your entire staff behind you.

Pressure of Deadlines

The pressure of deadlines is always there in school. Life is full of deadlines. Time limits are a reality in any line of work. School is a safe place where there are varying consequences of missing deadlines, but fortunately, few of them are that dire.

Interpersonal Skills

People are diverse in a University environment. Being involved in school things gave me the opportunity to work as a part of many different types of teams with different leadership and operation styles. You learn a lot about interpersonal dynamics working with group projects in class. Outside of class, there's student council, department student societies, clubs, etc. Each person has a role and their own responsibilities (President, Secretary, Treasurer, etc.) which is very similar to a corporate environment.

You learn to work with people who have different personality traits and that's important. You may also find lifelong friends and/or business partners.

Leadership is a part of it too. To be a good leader, I believe you have to first be a good follower/do-er. The leader has to understand what each person in their team is doing, be able to guide progress and juggle the project tasks between time, budget and functionality constraints. The three of them are almost ALWAYS conflicting.

These are not innate skills. It takes years and years of seeing examples and experiencing things first hand.