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Wedding Jewellery Etiquette

weather: cloudy
outside: 4°C
mood: perplexed
music: Paganini - Caprice No. 23 in Eb major, Posato
I was "asked to the Prom", as it were... which is pretty amazing for an old hag like me. It's a gala dinner cruise and I'd be going with Friend Dude. Husband Guy also knows Friend Dude and he's okay with it. He said that if I think I'll have fun, then I should go, even if I'm not going with him. I'm not so sure yet...

Question: is it appropriate to wear my wedding jewellery (engagement ring, wedding ring, anniversary band) to a formal social event as the guest of a male friend?

It's a formal event, so it would be appropriate as a part of my ensemble. I am never without my rings, so it feels strange to go without them. But, since I'm not with my husband, would it be a faux pas to be wearing them all? Since I won't know anyone there, I'm not sure I want to be in the awkward position of having people mistake me for Friend Dude's wife... ={

Opinions please... =}


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bride
Feb. 7th, 2003 11:22 pm (UTC)
you'll be in the equally awkward position of having people think you're his girlfriend

Eeehhh... that's true.

Thanks =)
bride
Feb. 7th, 2003 11:37 pm (UTC)
I just had more thoughts... if I wear the rings, people who know Friend Dude might think, "naah, that's not his wife, he's not married" or, they'll think I'm a mail order bride. *heurgh* *vomit* >K{ >K6 >K{
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bride
Feb. 7th, 2003 11:54 pm (UTC)
Re:
Not sure... I might use that silver dress I never got to wear =)
incognita
Feb. 7th, 2003 11:20 pm (UTC)
I say go. Get dressed up and go have fun. Just know that you're probably going to have to explain that you're just a friend on more than one occasion. People are nosey by nature. I never knew how nosey until I showed my engagement ring to someone and they said "wow! Is that REAL!?" I mean.. come on, like it's any of their business. It's a formal event where everyone is bringing a 'date' (for want of a better word). You're going to be mistaken for his wife whether you wear your rings or not. Some people are just going to be nosey and ask.
bride
Feb. 7th, 2003 11:25 pm (UTC)
they said "wow! Is that REAL!?"

=P Jeez, some peoples' kids... One of W's [girl] cousins asked to see it, made a huge obvious gesture of comparing mine to hers and loudly inquired as to the carat weight. *roll eyes at ceiling* =S

But yeah, you're right, it's going to be a bit of explaining anyway... thanks =)
badkarma_05
Feb. 8th, 2003 06:01 am (UTC)
You've been asked to the prom? *blink*blink*blink*
bride
Feb. 8th, 2003 09:15 am (UTC)
Re:
Yeah, fancy that =)
xinit
Feb. 8th, 2003 06:12 am (UTC)
Well, removing them would remove that social symbol that says "hands off, I'm taken" which could lead to more awkward situations if you turn out to be the belle of the ball.

Perhaps wearing your tiara might be overkill....
bride
Feb. 8th, 2003 09:23 am (UTC)
Re:
Hehehe, no, no tiara... maybe either a smaller tiara type band or some other smaller hair things, but not the wedding tiara =)
cuzgoatsrkool
Feb. 8th, 2003 07:03 am (UTC)
in my opinion you should wear them...you're married, and then people will know that...sure they might get confused as to who you are married to..but at least they will know you are taken.
bride
Feb. 8th, 2003 09:19 am (UTC)
Re:
True. Thanks =)
ducks
Feb. 8th, 2003 07:45 am (UTC)
Wear them! They're a part of you and a part of who you are. I think people will ask even more questions if you didn't have them on. Just let them think what they think... you're just there to have a good time!
bride
Feb. 8th, 2003 09:20 am (UTC)
Re:
They're a part of you and a part of who you are.

Yeah! I quite agree with that. Thank you =)
jenny_rambles
Feb. 8th, 2003 09:05 am (UTC)
I vote to wear them! They symbolize part of who you are now!
And besides - who cares what other people think? :)
bride
Feb. 8th, 2003 09:21 am (UTC)
Re:
Very true. Thanks =)
karinakarina
Feb. 8th, 2003 11:39 pm (UTC)
I was wondering waht an emergency band was. Do you wear it on the same finger as the two other rings?

And I'm with everyone else, wear your wedding jewelry. And please post pictures.
bride
Feb. 8th, 2003 11:44 pm (UTC)
Re:
Emergency band? I don't have one (just checked my post again and yes, I did spell "anniversary" right =)... Are you talking about MedicAlert bracelets?

They are gold, silver or copper-look chain bracelets that you wear on your wrist. They have your condition(s), drugs(s) you're taking and drug allergies engraved on them. EMT/Paramedics are trained to look at a person's wrists first, so if there's anything they need to know, that's where it should be.
karinakarina
Feb. 9th, 2003 01:25 am (UTC)
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Ahahaha! This is what happens when one does too many things at the same time. I meant "anniversary." =) I have no idea where that other word came from.
bride
Feb. 9th, 2003 11:09 am (UTC)
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Ah, okay... =)

Anniversary bands are... well, anniversary bands. They're for anniversaries =D It can be anything you want, but the mainstream notion of it is a ring with a bunch of smaller diamonds (as opposed to an engagement ring with one prominent diamond).

It used to be that they were only for the 75th Anniversary (the "Diamond" Anniversary), but we've thrown that out the window as well. =)
bellajellybean
Feb. 9th, 2003 04:36 pm (UTC)
my 2 cents
I say wear them. You wear them to every other event from now on in your life, and every other day that you spend without Husband Guy. I think he might be offended if you choose not to wear them to this event. For those who think you are Friend Guy's wife he should have the decency to correct them, saving you from any embarassment. :)
bride
Feb. 9th, 2003 04:48 pm (UTC)
Re: my 2 cents
Thanks for the input =) I want to wear them, but I was wondering if there's some generally accepted practice for it =)
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