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Friday Five - Hair

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1. Is your hair naturally curly, wavy, or straight? Long or short?

I have thick, straight Asian hair. And I have hideous amounts of it. I'm a Freaking Mop™. The circle your thumb and index finger makes is the amount of hair I had when I pull all my hair into a bundle. I used to have to use my thumb and middle finger to be able to hold it all comfortably.

From the time I was in Elementary school, my mother started buying me the LARGEST sized hairclips, most of which snap in half or crack as soon as I tried to put my hair in them. And that's AFTER I removed that u-shape piece of metal in the middle to make it bigger. When banana clips were all the rage in the 80's, I couldn't use them. Just to save time, they'd break as soon as they saw my hair as I was taking them out of the package. I have to shower with a mesh junk catching drain thing so that my hair doesn't stuff up the pipes too badly.

Length-wise, it's been as long as 29" twice in my life. Currently between shoulder and mid-back length.

I take after my Dad with regards to hair. I've had holier-than-thou hairdressers tell me that "women always resemble their mothers with hair". Bullshit.

My Dad's family also gets white hair at a very young age. I had my first white hair when I was 9 and I pluck white hairs all the time. Father Man's sister told me that he was born with a piece of white hair. This same Aunt was almost completely white by age 40 and colours her hair constantly. I used to be delighted at having white hair, I'm indifferent to it now. The "white hair" = "old" association was also never as strong for me.

2. How has your hair changed over your lifetime?

I've felt it thinning out. And I'm happy about this. =) I'm not sure if this is because my hands have gotten bigger or if my hair is thinning. Probably both. But I still can't use a lot of the large hairclips available. I've learned that if I wash my hair every 3-4 days instead of every other day, I lose more hair. This is what I've been doing for the last 15 years and it's worked quite well.

My mother used to make me get perms because she thought perms looked good with my face. I don't disagree with that, my face is very well suited to ringlets. But my hair was NOT the type to be permed. I looked like an insane lion. <sarcasm type="heavy">Yeah, the insane lion look makes you very well thought of in highschool.</sarcasm> Ever since I rebelled and not let any more curlers and solution touch my hair, I've been much happier as a person.

And I don't care what the Hair Snobs say, I worship 2-in-1 shampoos (Pert Plus, in particular). My hair tangles like you wouldn't believe and 2-in-1's are the only ones that work.

I've noticed that most plain shampoos now are combined with a little conditioner even if it doesn't say it on the label. I know a pure shampoo when I use it, my hair becomes Medusa snakes.

3. How do your normally wear your hair?

"Wear my hair"? Ask me if I even comb my hair in the mornings — only if I'm feeling particularly girlie that morning. I purposely grew out my bangs so I wouldn't have to deal with them. I don't blow dry, I don't mousse, gel or spray/spritz, I don't style.

4. If you could change your hair this minute, what would it look like?

I don't want to change my hair right now, but I do wish that I could have a nice shoulder-ish-length style temporarily for a special occasion and then have it plain, straight, back down to my waist again afterwards.

5. Ever had a hair disaster? What happened?

Like serennig, my whole life has been a hair disaster, but the one majorly disastrous event I remember was when I was 8, it got cut way shorter than I wanted it. It wasn't fair because the hairdresser lady wouldn't listen to me because I was a kid. And my parents thought it would be easier short. Or, horror upon horrors, with layers(!!!) I knew my hair would be a fucking disaster short or in layers, it would stick out all over and be hell-and-a-half to tame in the mornings. I need it to be long so that it would have some weight to it and sit properly.

This is why I get so pissed off when people tell me I should cut my hair short. FUCK. OFF. I know my hair. You do not. You're not the one that has to deal with it. I've learned that when I listen to other peoples' advice on hair, it fucks it up further. Don't tell me what to do with my hair.

I've never realized how much my hair contributed to my horrible self-esteem problems until I wrote it all out like this. I've never been a primping girlie girl, but that doesn't mean it didn't damage me to feel ugly. On the surface, it looks like I don't care about my hair or what it looks like, etc. But that's not quite true. I don't care how it looks, as long as I am in control of what happens to it.



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Jun. 20th, 2003 11:01 am (UTC)
I could never wear those banana clips. Even if I could even get the teeth into my hair, there's NO way it would ever close.

Dad's hair! I have it. Curly. Mom had no idea what to do with a curly-haired girl.
Jun. 20th, 2003 11:19 am (UTC)
I watched a blonde girl just flip her head upside down, slide the thing up her neck and over her head, flip her head back up and snap it in. No gel or anything. And it LOOKED RIGHT =O =O

When I did that, my hair mushroomed out all over my hands, I broke the clip and nearly slit my wrist with it.

With boys, you just give'em a crew cut and be done with it. You can't crew cut a girl... =P
Jun. 20th, 2003 11:23 am (UTC)
Well you CAN... everyone either assumes they're a mom or a lesbian then though.
Jun. 20th, 2003 12:46 pm (UTC)
Giving an 8 year old girl a crew cut against her will should be a crime.
Jun. 20th, 2003 11:28 am (UTC)
I got the Asian thick hair too... only with curls. It makes it into a really unmanageable mass of frizz. I did dance for a while and one major factor that lead to me dropping out was that it was physically impossible for me to pull my hair up into a bun.
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Jun. 20th, 2003 12:23 pm (UTC)
And the whole danged can of hairspray =)
Jun. 20th, 2003 01:41 pm (UTC)
That's where hair sticks come in handy
I discovered to my shock last weekend that my hair is finally too long to do a french twist. There's simply too much mass for the pins to do any good.

On the other hand, I can do a very secure hairdo with a set of hairsticks. I often use pencils or laquered chopsticks (because the plastic ones snap). I was so bummed when they went back out of fashion.
Jun. 20th, 2003 12:10 pm (UTC)
only with curls.

Aie... I'll never understand what possessed my mother to keep trying to put hell curls in my hair ON PURPOSE =P

Re: hair up into a bun

I think I tried that once, the bun was almost as big as my head. And it sproinged apart, sending 1000 extra large shrapnel hairpins flying in all directions.
Jun. 26th, 2003 08:05 pm (UTC)
The big black bobby-pin like contraptions do work pretty well once you get the hang of how the buns work. My usual method of getting the waist-length thick brown mess to stay anchored for dance class involves a few twists and four huge ones. Normal days can use nifty little hair combs to keep it in place. (twelve for a dollar goody stuff. yay.)

I guess I got lucky with a mom that knows how to cut straight hair that always just listened to what I wanted for it. Even the time it went from thigh-length to chest-length.
Jun. 20th, 2003 12:28 pm (UTC)
oh god, I hated it when I was a kid and hairdressers would never listen to what I wanted. Mom always insisted I get it short thinking that it would be easier (plus she wouldn't have to take me to get it cut as often) but it pisses the fuck out of me because it means I need to wash it more often since I can't just throw it up into a ponytail, that kinda crap.

I've since discovered a very nice hairdresser who knows what I like with my hair and ignores my mom's insistance that she cut it as short as possible. She just cuts it to the length I want and layers it a little and tells my mom, "See, I cut off a lot, three inches right see, look at all the hair on the ground" Hehe, I love her. :)

I also grew out my bangs so they wouldn't need maintenance. I'm a very low maintenance person when it comes to hair, wash and wear, that's my style. Ever since I got a body perm a few weeks ago, even throwing a little mousse in feels like a chore, haha. Good thing that this can go wash and wear okay too.
Jun. 20th, 2003 12:36 pm (UTC)
I love Wash'n'Wear hair =)
Jun. 20th, 2003 01:12 pm (UTC)
When I was little I had perfectly straight nice hair that knew how to behave. Then all of a sudden when I hit puberty in 5th grade my hair went insanely curly. I have no idea why. But ever since, I have had very curly hard to manage definitely not behaving hair. I absolutely hated going to hair dressers because they kept trying to give me BIG HAIR. The amount of hairspray they would put into my hair was amazing. I think if anyone lit a match near my face I would have gone up in flames ;-)

So yeah. I guess living in the south of the US didn't help much either considering that everyone wants to give you big hair down there.

On a different subject, where do you get the Friday Five stuff? I think it is a great idea, especially for people like me who need a kick in the butt to sit down and write things every once in a while. :)
Jun. 20th, 2003 02:32 pm (UTC)
I think if anyone lit a match near my face I would have gone up in flames ;-)

Heheh, don't try to smoke or have anyone smoke near you then =)

where do you get the Friday Five stuff?

http://www.fridayfive.org =)
Jun. 20th, 2003 02:34 pm (UTC)
Heheh, don't try to smoke or have anyone smoke near you then =)

haha yup. If someone started to take a lighter out of their pocket I was outta there!

Thanks for the link. Now perhaps I will be forced to get my booty in gear and update my journal more.

Jun. 27th, 2003 01:25 pm (UTC)
Ummm... Oops?
Except that when I go to that website it immediately asks me for a login and password. Do you have to be an LJ user to get in?
Jun. 27th, 2003 02:14 pm (UTC)
Re: Ummm... Oops?
No, Friday Five is completely separate from LiveJournal It shouldn't be asking you for a login, it's a public thing. I'm not sure why you're being asked for a login. That's very odd.

The only thing I can think of is that your machine has Parental Control software that won't allow you to go to certain websites without a password.
Jun. 30th, 2003 03:52 pm (UTC)
Re: Ummm... Oops?
Nope. I'm a dork and can't read. ;) I forget sometimes that not EVERY website has a ".com" URL. I typed in fridayfive.com instead of fridayfive.org. Oops, is right! :D
Jun. 30th, 2003 04:31 pm (UTC)
Re: Ummm... Oops?
Oh, heehee =)
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