Who You Are
You're a pillar of strength
You're a very strong and loyal person. You're responsible and work hard in everything you do. In fact, you're the one that co-workers and friends run to when they have problems. They know that you'll give them levelheaded and common sense advice. You pride yourself on not being the "typical woman." You have a shy and reserved exterior, which people sometimes misinterpret as being distant or a snob. But just because you don't "wear your heart on your sleeve" doesn't mean you lack deep feelings. When you find someone special and they get a chance to spend quiet time one-on-one with you, they'll see your true self shine through.
What's dating all about to you?
Finding a loving relationship is a mission for you. You have clear goals and even a timeline in mind. Falling in love is an especially magical experience. You're suddenly free from the rules and thinking that guide your life. You usually keep your feelings and life under control. But remember, the bigger the dam, the bigger the flood when it breaks!
You face two major challenges in finding the love of your life. First, because your mind is so busy making sure you say and do the right things on dates, it's hard for your deeper and caring self to come through. It feels risky to share this part of yourself. Second, although having a vision of what you want can be helpful, the risk is that your high standards and rush to find the perfect man can get in the way of loving a real-life imperfect man.
Here's how you compare with other women your age
How unique is your type?
Your personality profile is similar to a number of women your age. Looking at over 10,000 women who have taken the test, about 30.7% (or 1 in 3 women) have very similar beliefs, values, and habits. Of course, the way these qualities are expressed in you is what makes you so unique.
How many other women have personalities like you?
Quirks men notice
Like all women, you have your strengths as well as your quirks and shortcomings. Ultimately, you want to find someone who will love and accept you "warts and all." Because you're a private person, it's especially important that you find a partner who understands.
- The organization and time-management skills that serve you so well in your career can spill over into your personal life and at times make you seem controlling and impatient.
- Because you're a practical down-to-earth woman, at times you can hold on to habits and traditions too long and be slow to do things a different way, try a new technology, or change your beliefs.
- You're such a straightforward and honest woman that at times what you say comes across a little harsh and insensitive.
Do men like your type?
Notice that 82% of men are generally attracted to your personality type. 25% say they are VERY attracted. With the millions of people on Match.com, that translates into lots of potential matches.
How many men are attracted to your type?
Who You're Looking For
He'll be an enigma
You're looking for a man who can be a pillar of strength and stability in your life. You want a man you can count on to do what he says and say what he means. You'll be impressed by how responsible, strong-willed and hardworking he is. If you're ever in a crisis, he's definitely the man you'd want to come to your rescue. He's more compassionate than most men and has a lot of "common sense." He'll dress and act conservatively, but behind his serious exterior is a very loyal and faithful potential partner.
Overall, it's important for you to be with someone who is almost always cheerful and has an optimistic outlook on life. The ideal person you're seeking shares a number of positive qualities with you, including:
- He's sensible and pragmatic about his career, buying new things, and making big decisions.
- He's organized so he plans ahead for dates and is always on time.
Here's how you compare to your "ideal" partner
Number of men your type
Men with the exact type of personality you prefer are rare gems. Looking at over 10,000 men who have taken this test, only 6% (or 1 in 17 men) have the exact combination of similarities and contrasts in personality you find extremely appealing.
However, there's a larger group, 25% (or 1 in 4 men), who have most, but not all, of the qualities and habits you like. These subgroups are charted below.
About two-thirds (69%) of the men have at least some of the traits you find attractive.
But you'd have a negative reaction to 31% (or 1 in 3 men), who have some or many of the characteristics you clearly dislike.
How many men are your "ideal" type?
Finding someone like you
You want to share your life with someone who has the same values, goals, and style you have. Research has shown that couples who have more in common tend to stay together longer. The qualities you find attractive (and unattractive) in men suggest you would certainly be happier with a man who's more like you.
- No very strong opposites were detected, which suggests that you are most attracted to men who are very similar to you. This is good news since similar couples tend to stay together longer.
Quirks you can tolerate
The truth is that everyone is potentially "high maintenance." We all have our quirks and shortcomings. The key to long-term harmony is finding a man who can tolerate (or maybe even enjoy) your "quirks," or the little personal oddities that make you unique. You seem okay with several common quirks that might come along with your "ideal" man:
- You can appreciate why he wants to make decisions based on his own past experiences, even though it seems pretty narrow and unimaginative to you sometimes.
- You can understand his career drive and crises at work, even though he sometimes drags these hassles home.
Downside of your "ideal"
In addition to his quirks, your "ideal" personality type may have other qualities that are more frustrating or challenging to deal with. Under stress, his quirks can become serious "flaws." But remember, these quirks are the "flip side of the coin," or the extreme end of qualities you otherwise find appealing. So, be prepared if:
- Because you're most attracted to men with balanced personalities, no troubling differences were noted. Nevertheless, remember that too much similarity can lead to conflict as well, especially when problems call for very different perspectives or actions.
You seem ready to adapt to the good and frustrating qualities of the men you're looking for, but there are types of men you clearly do NOT like. Men's habits and attitudes you'd have a hard time putting up with include:
- Men who need frequent reminders that you care about them and would be upset if they thought you found another man physically attractive.
- Men who wait until the last minute to make plans (for weekend fun, for example) and even seem to resist your attempts to plan activities ahead.
- Idealistic or artistic men who get lost in their own world as they pursue their dreams.