The Husband is a Senior Software Developer at a small dev house here in Vancouver. If you know the hi-tech industry, especially software games, you'll know that he works all kinds of insane hours... as evidenced by the fact that he hasn't had a haircut in a loooong time so right now, he's kinda looking like a flower.
He must be pretty frustrated with me. What, with me imposing Vegetarian Weeks on his carnivorous self and not understanding why that person who has a VTech sticker on his Dodge is an idiot. And calling his favorite group Run-D.M.C., "Run DDC" or "Run CMD... dot E-X-E" is *twitter* NOT FUNNY *guffaw* AT ALL. And I think if I say, "Who's George Michael?" ONE MORE TIME while his song is playing on the radio, he's going to file for an annulment.
2. What are some things about which you don't seem to be able to communicate?
That onions are not evil. There's no talking about this in our house.
3. Why are you getting married? In the light of what is happening to marriages today, why will yours be different?
Our relationship is based on laughter. We'll make fun of everything together, each other, other people. We don't care if we're being laughed at or laughed with, so long as we're laughing.
4. What do you, as a couple, want out of life?
I thought I knew the answer to this, but I don't anymore. The only two things I can think of are:
- We want to have each other in our lives and get through whatever happens to us, good or bad, together.
- Financial independence.
Anything beyond that has changed a lot, even just in the last few years.
5. How are you dividing up the household chores? Is it working the way you envisioned?
I envisioned things being shared evenly between us. It's not shared evenly, but the reality is, it can't be. He works late most weekdays, so how fair is it to ask him to do exactly half of the housework? It's things like that that sometimes make it impossible to split responsibilities into equal portions or prorate things.
In our house, it's whoever sees the chore that needs doing either does it or takes turns with someone else doing it. We just ask someone else to do it if we think it's their turn. You'd think that this would lead to never ending fights about who should be doing what, but it actually works for us.
The birds' cages get cleaned regularly. The garbage gets taken out on time. The refrigerator gets cleared out by whoever smells it first. Dishes get done... eventually. Dinner happens... usually. The lawn gets mowed... sometimes. Vacuuming, dusting happens. Laundry... well, if you don't have anything left to wear, that's a clue. Lightbulbs get changed when someone actually needs to see or gets tired of that dim, "romantic" look throughout the house.