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Wedding Five - General

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1. Introduce your fiancé to me. How would you describe him/her? How would he/she describe you?

userinfoThe Husband is a Senior Software Developer at a small dev house here in Vancouver. If you know the hi-tech industry, especially software games, you'll know that he works all kinds of insane hours... as evidenced by the fact that he hasn't had a haircut in a loooong time so right now, he's kinda looking like a flower.

He must be pretty frustrated with me. What, with me imposing Vegetarian Weeks on his carnivorous self and not understanding why that person who has a VTech sticker on his Dodge is an idiot. And calling his favorite group Run-D.M.C., "Run DDC" or "Run CMD... dot E-X-E" is *twitter* NOT FUNNY *guffaw* AT ALL. And I think if I say, "Who's George Michael?" ONE MORE TIME while his song is playing on the radio, he's going to file for an annulment.

2. What are some things about which you don't seem to be able to communicate?

That onions are not evil. There's no talking about this in our house.

3. Why are you getting married? In the light of what is happening to marriages today, why will yours be different?

Our relationship is based on laughter. We'll make fun of everything together, each other, other people. We don't care if we're being laughed at or laughed with, so long as we're laughing.

4. What do you, as a couple, want out of life?

I thought I knew the answer to this, but I don't anymore. The only two things I can think of are:

  1. We want to have each other in our lives and get through whatever happens to us, good or bad, together.

  2. Financial independence.

Anything beyond that has changed a lot, even just in the last few years.

5. How are you dividing up the household chores? Is it working the way you envisioned?

I envisioned things being shared evenly between us. It's not shared evenly, but the reality is, it can't be. He works late most weekdays, so how fair is it to ask him to do exactly half of the housework? It's things like that that sometimes make it impossible to split responsibilities into equal portions or prorate things.

In our house, it's whoever sees the chore that needs doing either does it or takes turns with someone else doing it. We just ask someone else to do it if we think it's their turn. You'd think that this would lead to never ending fights about who should be doing what, but it actually works for us.

The birds' cages get cleaned regularly. The garbage gets taken out on time. The refrigerator gets cleared out by whoever smells it first. Dishes get done... eventually. Dinner happens... usually. The lawn gets mowed... sometimes. Vacuuming, dusting happens. Laundry... well, if you don't have anything left to wear, that's a clue. Lightbulbs get changed when someone actually needs to see or gets tired of that dim, "romantic" look throughout the house.


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razorw
Sep. 17th, 2004 04:24 pm (UTC)
Financial independence.

Its funny .. how now in Canada .. if you're married, you get taxed more than if you're single ... =P --Ray
nightshift
Sep. 17th, 2004 07:20 pm (UTC)
if you're married, you get taxed more than if you're single

Very briefly, I don't believe this is the case. Canadian taxpayers file separate tax returns and not a joint household return. I would say that the Canadian tax system is marriage neutral because you're paying taxes depending on each individual's earned income rather than the household's combined total income.

Now the one situation that I can think of where marriage can be "penalized" tax-wise is if one partner is the sole breadwinner and the other stays at home tending to children. The total tax paid by this particular couple is greater than if they were a dual-income family having similar incomes after factoring in spousal exemptions and child care deductions. The "marriage tax penalty" becomes more pronounced if the couple has very disparate incomes. But the question here is whether or not a married couple is taxed more than a single person so this is extraneous information.

The are some tax solutions to reduce the family's tax burden in this scenario. A sole breadwinner family can use strategies involving income splitting, capital gains elections on transfers of property, and Spousal (or Common-Law) RRSPs to help reduce their taxes owing.

But going back to your statement, I do not believe that an individual who is married is taxed more than if that same individual were single.
bride
Sep. 17th, 2004 07:56 pm (UTC)
I didn't think so either, but I wasn't sure. I did both our income tax returns the first year we were married and I don't remember doing anything differently other than check the "Married" box.
razorw
Sep. 17th, 2004 10:07 pm (UTC)
Well, I'm not married, and this is what is told to me by those who are ... And yes, most, if not all of them do fall in the situation as the sole breadwinner.

In any case, thanks for the info .. maybe I'll one day be able to put it to good use. =P --Ray
xinit
Sep. 17th, 2004 04:43 pm (UTC)
In our house it's the evil raisins. I don't like them and Tania simply won't accept that there's a conspiracy on the part of the world's grape growers and the International Raisin Concern.

Just remember that George Micheal (aka whatsisname) is the perv that was caught in a public bathroom enjoying himself way too much. Not to be confused with Paul Reubens who was in a theatre, not a bathroom.
bride
Sep. 17th, 2004 08:00 pm (UTC)
Hahaha, we get cran-raisins. =)
toturi
Sep. 17th, 2004 10:10 pm (UTC)
The only edible onions are in french onion soup.
nightshift
Sep. 17th, 2004 07:31 pm (UTC)
George Michael! Awesome. If I may ask, what is your hubby's song?
bride
Sep. 17th, 2004 07:59 pm (UTC)
Haha, it's not really "his song" or anything, it just comes on every once in a while on the radio. It's the one that goes, "wake me up... before you go-go" and that other guy who has no other job in the song than to go, "yeeeaaaahh.... yeeeeaaaahh..." =)
ducks
Sep. 26th, 2004 09:51 am (UTC)
1. Introduce your fiancé to me. How would you describe him/her? How would he/she describe you?
PB is an IT Consultant and tech-geek. He was born in Hong Kong, but spent his highschool and university years in Canada. He is funny and can make me laugh, even when I am *so mad* at him. That's what I love about him. He would probably say I'm a lazy worrywart. :D

2. What are some things about which you don't seem to be able to communicate?
There is a reason why people wear a watch. It's so you won't be LATE.

3. Why are you getting married? In the light of what is happening to marriages today, why will yours be different?
After 8 years, it was the next logical step! Like you and Husband Guy, he makes me laugh. We can laugh and joke about anything. We find the same things funny, and have the same sense of sarcasm. Our relationship is also based on a great friendship. It also helps that we were both brought up the same way, and have the same morals and values towards most life things.

4. What do you, as a couple, want out of life?
Grow old together, and have fun doing it.

5. How are you dividing up the household chores? Is it working the way you envisioned?

We don't really divide it up. We just do whatever needs to be done. Somehow it all works out without us resenting each other. We both do all the chores, just at different times. :)
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