As far as I'm concerned, if I pay a photographer to take my pictures for personal purposes, all proofs and negatives are mine and I have sole ownership of the copyright to the images. I can reproduce them in any format (digital or hardcopy) as I please. Period. Full stop. End of discussion.
The photographer's time, materials, artistic talent, intellectual property and all that blardy-blar are included. It's up to the photographer to quote me a price that includes all of that. I have no time for the ifs, buts, maybes and the strings-attached bullshit.
This isn't something that I've ever discussed with any photographer. But I've always gone to Chinese studios who also have this mentality. Even Johnny, my wedding day photographer who has been in the business for 10+ years in North America. Granted, his clientele is mostly the Chinese community.
The same applies to my wedding video with Bailey. He gave us the original 35mm(?) tapie thingie with all the original raw footage. In fact, I got two tapie thingies. I'm not sure what I'm doing with them, but I'd always thought it was understood that if I had the means (the post-production equipment), I could do whatever I want with it.
We always ask and the negatives are always included in the package. That, to me, says that they are mine to reproduce with no limitations. Because, what else would I be doing with negatives? Stuffing my bra with them?
But the weddingplans thread just reminded me that I really should ask a few more questions and possibly get more detail written in future contracts.
I thought this might be useful to say out loud.