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Four For Friday - Favorite Words

weather: sunny
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music: Mendelssohn - Violin Concerto in E Minor, Op. 64
Q: What are four of your favorite words?
from the October 7, 2005 edition of Four For Friday

These have been in my Interest list for a long time now:

勤奮 meaning "diligence", "industriousness".
忍耐 meaning "patience", "restraint".
誠懇 meaning "sincerity".
謙遜 meaning "modesty", "humility".

Unlike most others, persuit of happiness is not my goal. Rather, I believe it will be a side effect of living well, living within the constraints of my circumstances and accepting such. I don't ask to be happy. I only ask to be able to handle whatever life throws at me, good or bad, with dignity and discipline. And happiness will follow.

"Are you happy?" was the question posed to me.

My left hand, alone, is worth more than most peoples' entire estate. I have too much to be thankful for, too much going for me, too many good things happening and really, way too wonderful of a life to be miserable. I simply don't have the right to be unhappy about anything.

I don't care to be happy per se. I accept my life. I accept who I am, where I was, what has been. I make the best of what I have. There's a lot that can be improved. There's never enough time/money/motivation/resources to do everything I want to, but that's the reality of anyone's existence. I do what I can.


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yueni
Oct. 15th, 2005 09:24 pm (UTC)
That's a really zen way of looking at life. I think acceptance is one of the few things that make people more content with who they are, but so few people are rarely that accepting of themselves and their situation.
bride
Oct. 15th, 2005 10:51 pm (UTC)
people are rarely that accepting of themselves and their situation

I think it depends on what stage of life you're at. I haven't always been that accepting of "my fate" either. I think if you're not satisfied with where you are and what you have, you can either use that dissatisfaction as motivation to improve or accept it.

Evaluate what you can do, do what you can and accept what you really can't change.
chenpion
Oct. 15th, 2005 10:32 pm (UTC)
You inspire me, you know that?
Just added you to my list of 'Heroes' on my 'Trading Card'.

Your... poise, I suppose is the word... is a bar that I try to keep in mind and live up to (because I want to, not because you hold me up to it). It's sort of old-fashioned and conservative, -but-... it's the -good- part of it, that a lot of people nowadays seem to forget or ... well, not care about.

The left hand bit, though, kind of throw me.

I wish I could be more like you, -think- more like you, but until I can... at least there's someone carrying the torch ahead of me. I'm really thankful there's someone like you on my list who writes/thinks like this... without being preachy/religious! =)
bride
Oct. 15th, 2005 10:47 pm (UTC)
Re: You inspire me, you know that?
Wow, thanks =)

I wrote it out as a reminder to myself. Not really as something that I think I have attained. It's ancient wisdom. The more I think, the more right it is.

The left-hand is worth more than MY estate =D That comment came from some stat that slacker_genious posted a while ago that said, "if you have spare change in your wallet or in a jar sitting somewhere in your home, then you are among the top 8% most wealthy in the world" ... or some such.

The jewelry on my left hand is worth a lot more than most peoples' spare change jars. It's a reminder to myself to keep things in perspective.
ex_seagazer118
Oct. 16th, 2005 02:37 am (UTC)
My Thoughts
I read a lot of books on being successful. One of the new (for me) ideas I've gotten from reading is that happiness is a decision you make. Happiness is not something that happens to you. And after thinking on it I agree.

For instance, if money is the source of happiness then there wouldn't be any unhappy rich people and all poor people would be unhappy. This isn't so. Happiness is a state of being, not something to be gotten from elsewhere outside of oneself.
bride
Oct. 16th, 2005 05:03 am (UTC)
Re: My Thoughts
happiness is a decision you make. Happiness is not something that happens to you.

I don't know that I completely agree with that. If it really were a choice, everyone would choose to be happy because who would seriously choose otherwise?

But I think I sort of understand what that's saying though.

I think that happiness is the convergence of expectation and reality whether by your own doing or by luck/fate/destiny/whatever. Sometimes, you can make your reality meet your expectations, but reality will happen however it wants to unfold too. Sometimes, you change your expectation to meet the reality that's in front of you which is easier said than done.

What I've found is focussing on changing what I can, learning to be able to tell which to change (reality or my expectations) without worrying too much about happiness and the happiness will come along on its own. =)
ex_seagazer118
Oct. 16th, 2005 05:57 pm (UTC)
Re: My Thoughts
I agree most people would choose happiness if they thought they could "choose" it. People do what they know and believe. We limit ourselves by our beliefs and limited knowledge. I've read that people use a very small part of their potential.
sophia
Oct. 16th, 2005 03:40 am (UTC)
勤奮 how is the second word pronounced?

think i've heard it in a school motto and i just love the way it sounds!
bride
Oct. 16th, 2005 03:47 am (UTC)
勤奮 is pronounced "qín fèn".

And, yeah, I can totally see it as a school motto =)
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