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Thank you for blocking me from that other entry! Good to know! Have a great day!
Wow. Identification removed to protect the stupid... unless they want to fess to having the sensibilities of a loonfrog.
I knew that sometimes people did get upset at that kind of thing (feelings are feelings, afterall), but I've never seen anyone with the gall to actually be that rude about it.
Girlie, if it makes you feel any better, _I_ was locked out of that one too. O_O Maybe she was filtering you out to plan a nice surprise thing for you. Oh... your friends don't do that for you? ... ... ... Y'know? I'm not surprised.
Seriously though. NO ONE has the right to be upset at being left out of an LJ filter. I'm just glad to see that she's around and she's alive enough to post, even if I can't see the actual post.
Because that is how friends treat each other.
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But really, a journal may be on the internet, but it's still a journal, right? There are some things that shouldn't float around cyberspace (and I've found that once you're on, there's no getting off... until LJ goes bankrupt or something). And there are some things that aren't suitable for some friends (especially new ones) to read.
OR things "leak out" when an LJ 'friend' is cutting and pasting every word of one's posts into a secret community set up on greatestjournal.com for the sheer purpose of laughing at one behind ones back.
Fun, eh?
Public is basically a quotation depository; low security is stuff like linking to news articles and such; mid-level is making my opinion known or discussing things which may be sensitive to some people (like religion and politics); high-level is the existential angst :-) The more sensitive things get, the fewer people get to read.
It keeps me from having to create four different journals for different purposes... I think HOW you filter is more important than WHO you filter.
Especially if you use "negative filters" (of the "everyone but Chris" or "people who don't know Jeff" type), since some day, you might be tempted to post to two such filters at once, and suddenly Chris reads what you think about him.
And it also goes back to my personal policy where if I have an issue with someone, they are the first to know. No one else (except maybe my husband) hears anything that they haven't heard from me first.
But I think the real offense is openly and publicly complaining about it, with such an attitude of entitlement.
I'm mixed on that. Sure, we are entitled to our feelings. We're going to feel what we feel and it's up to us to deal and cope.
But in a way, I feel they don't. The post that they were filtered out of, may not have anything to do with them. I have private conversations with my husband all the time, in person and on LJ. I have to wonder about anyone who thinks they have the right to be hurt at that to begin with.
At least for me, anything sensitive enough to filter out is probably something I'd rather talk to people about individually.
If they're your friends, I think that you ought to respect their personal choices. That's what a friendship is all about, I think. Besides, if you're really curious about the post, you could always ask politely instead of leaving some annoyed comment on the poster's LJ. *shrugs*